How To Get a Gender Therapist

– Hi, I’m Jackson Bird, and today we’re talking about how to get a gender therapist, and what to expect.


– Hi, I’m Jackson Bird, and today we’re talking about
how to get a gender therapist, and what to expect once you get one. (fun, upbeat music) So, the most important factor
in me finally coming out and transitioning was seeing a therapist. But, it was also pretty
much the hardest part of my transition. I had “go see a therapist”
on my to do list for years, like literally, four-and-a-half years, I was trying to do it. Like, just getting the will
to take that first step. I would like, get on phone
calls after doing some research, and then there would
be some small problem, and I would just give up and not do it again for a couple years. So I know how tough it can be
to get over that first hurdle and see a therapist, especially
when you are at a point where you’re kind of low, and
like really need a therapist. It is stupidly,
paradoxically, so much harder. But, I also know how incredible
of a difference it can make to go see a therapist. So, before we get into
gender therapy specifics, I just wanna recommend that
everyone go see a therapist, whether you are struggling
with something or not. It’s just great to have an
impartial person to talk to. So, in keeping with that, I’m
pretty stoked that today’s video is sponsored by betterhelp, which is a site that makes
therapy more accessible. Betterhelp is an affordable
online private service that connects you with
a therapist or counselor anywhere, anytime, via text,
phone call, or video chat, as often as you need it. Like I said, I know how tough
it can be to find a therapist, and then to even think
about going in person. And I have known several trans people who have done online
therapy as a first step, before going to see a gender therapist because traditional therapy
was too cost prohibitive, too far away, too
intimidating of a first step, or too dysphoric to think
about going in person. So betterhelp is a great way
to get professional support in your home, whenever you need it. All of the counselors are
trained and accredited with Masters or Doctorate
Degrees in their field. That said, they cannot give
you an official diagnosis, prescribe medication, or for example, like write a letter that would enable you to then get hormones. But, they can help you
sort out your thoughts, get some coping mechanisms, and provide all of the other
invaluable benefits of therapy. So if you wanna learn more
and sign up for a membership that gives you unlimited counseling, click my link below in
the description box. And thank you again to betterhelp
for sponsoring this video. So, online therapy like
betterhelp is a great option for beginning your gender therapy journey. And I’d like to share some other tips for finding a gender therapist, and what to expect when you get one. Disclaimer- I am not a professional, this is not legal or medical advice. I am just one single trans person, this is speaking from my experience, some casual research,
experiences of my friends. Also, at least the finding
a therapist portion of this is gonna be pretty US centric,
because that’s where I am, and because we have a lot of gatekeepers with our health insurance, it’s confusing, we have too many states
for one government. And if you are under 18, some of this will be a
little bit different, because laws are stricter for you, there are different regulations. But you can check out the
resources that I’ll put in the description box for
more info on those things. Alright, done with the disclaimers. So let’s talk about why you
need a gender therapist. Most trans and gender
non-conforming people want a gender therapist so
that they can get an official gender dysphoria diagnosis in a letter that they can then use to
start hormone treatments, or other gender affirming procedures, or to change the gender marker
on their legal documents. A letter from an accredited
medical professional is still required to do those things in most US states, and
from most providers. Like, there might be some
states that don’t require it, but some surgeons who do, so you’ve always gotta
like do your research and compare and find out those things. Some states and medical
providers do do something called informed consent, which basically
means that you don’t need that letter, they’re
just gonna talk to you about what the procedure
is, and you sign some forms, and you’re good to go. I could make a whole other
video on informed concent, maybe I will one day. But the one thing that I will say relevant to this video about therapy, is that even if your path
to medical transition does not require a letter, I still highly recommend some
form of therapy or counseling. Even if you a thousand
percent know who you are, and how you wanna proceed with transition, starting medical transition
can be very stressful. No, not can be, it is stressful. And it can be helpful to
have someone to talk to as you navigate a lot of
big, physical changes, and a lot of very delicate,
interpersonal changes that will be going on in your life. But also, more likely, you
don’t a thousand percent know who you are, most of us don’t. You might have some
doubts, concerns, fears that don’t invalidate your identity, but are very real, and worth exploring. Talking to a therapist can
help you feel more confident and at ease with your decisions, and maybe you’ll uncover
some underlying issues that you weren’t even aware of. So for whatever reason, you have decided that you want
to find a gender therapist, but how? How do that? There are several paths to take, and I recommend investigating all of them. First, in the United States, I recommend going to your health
insurance’s online portal, where they should have a
place where you can search for medical providers in
your area by specialty, including mental health
services and LGBT filters. This way you will know
for sure what and how much your insurance covers. I am trying so hard to not say
insurance the way that I do. Insurance, or insurance. Insurance. [Deep Voice] Insurance. Because everyone makes fun of me, but it’s just gonna happen
in this video, alright? I’m just gonna say it my weird way. And we’re all gonna be cool with it. But, it might be a
little bit harder to tell if the therapist actually has experience with transgender patients, and if they were good experiences. There are a few ways to figure that out. Number one, search their website. Number two, because most
of their websites suck, go to a website like Zocdoc, which is basically Yelp for doctors, and see what other people are saying. Number three, call and
ask a few questions. I know, it’s scary to call people, there’s gonna be a lot of scary steps. This whole thing is basically
one scary step after another. Ask if they’ve had a trans patient before, if you’re non-binary, ask if they’ve had
non-binary patients before. And then ask if they follow
the WPATH standards of care. Details of the WPATH standards
of care can sometimes be criticized within the
transgender community, but if the therapist knows what it is, and says that they adhere to it, they’re at least going to be better than a therapist who has no idea what the WPATH standards of care are. Because here’s the sad truth, there are a lot of therapists out there who say that they work with LGBT patients but have actually never worked
with a transgender patient. Now if you are in a more rural area, you might not have an option
but to be a therapist’s first transgender patient, but
avoid it at all costs. If they haven’t worked with
transgender patients before, they might be relying on very
outdated medical research, and stereotypes that could
not only harm your chances of getting that letter that you want, but also of having you know, actually effective therapeutic therapy. Due to historically
discriminatory medical practices, there is a long history of
transgender people having to exchange information about
what to say to medical professionals in order to get
the letter that they need. Don’t admit you’re gay, lean into hyper-masculine or
hyper-feminine stereotypes. Definitely don’t say that
you’re non-binary or agender, all of those things will put you at risk of not getting your letter,
at least traditionally. And I’m sorry to say that you
might still encounter that with some therapists today. But, it is my goal in this
video to arm you with enough knowledge as possible
to avoid that situation. So, if you don’t feel like
you’re getting the information you want from your health
insurance’s portal, or if like mine, your health insurance actually doesn’t have that, there are a lot of other
online directories you can use, Psychology Today’s is
surprisingly dependable, and there is a handful
of trans-specific ones made by and for trans people, which I will link to
in the description box. And that gets me to the
next step, which is, ask other trans people. You might not know any other
trans people in person, and that is super common
when you’re just starting to figure things out,
but I can guarantee you, that there is some type of Facebook group or online message board
of other trans people in your local city, region, or state. And these groups are so
useful for exchanging medical, legal, and professional
advice with other trans people and finding the resources that you need, specific to your area. I am in a local New York City one, and I cannot tell you how
many times it has just been invaluable to me. So if you find one of those, the other people in the
group will be able to recommend to you which
therapists are awesome, which ones are affordable, and which ones don’t believe
in non-binary genders, which ones are TERFs in
disguise, that kind of thing. Now if you are in a larger town, or you have access to
be able to get to one, I recommend hitting up
the local LGBTQ center. Not only will they have people
on hand to help you find a vetted gender therapist in the area, they might even have
free drop-in counseling that you can utilize while
you are in the process of finding a full-blown,
regular gender therapist. They will probably also
have support groups and group therapy that you can go to, which is so good, and so helpful, and will probably lead to you making lots of new trans friends,
which is always great. Alright, so now you have
hopefully got a list of possible therapists, or one really
good recommendation from the community. First, double-check if
your insurance covers them, or find out exactly how much
it is going to cost you. A lot of therapists, especially LGBT ones will provide sliding scales, which means you will pay
less based on your income. Don’t be afraid to ask about that, some of them offer it even if they don’t advertise that they do, because they don’t want
people taking advantage of it, who don’t actually need it. And again, check online reviews, maybe give them a call to ask
them a few more questions, just do whatever you need to do to feel fully informed and
prepared before you even step foot into the office. And then when you go, if there are any red
flags on that first visit, anything that makes
you feel uncomfortable, go back to your list, and
start finding another one. I mean, I will say, if you’re
sole purpose is just to get that letter so that you can
start hormones or whatever, then maybe you’re comfortable
putting up with some things in that short period of time that you’re going to be going to this therapist. But if you really wanna get good, professional therapeutic
help, then don’t settle. And now, once you have
found a therapist that feels comfortable to you, how whatever
comfortable means to you, here is what to expect
at your appointments. One of the first things
that they’ll probably do is ask your goals. Therapists, like teachers and bosses, really like to hear your personal goals about things that you think are obvious. Like, goals, yeah boss, uh,
do the job and get paid? What more do you want? If your only goal is to get
a gender dysphoria diagnosis letter so that you can proceed
with medical transition, just tell them that. But if you have some other goals, like maybe figuring out if you
want to medically transition, or maybe working on some
other things like depression, or anxiety, then let them know that too. They’ll work with you
based on what you want to get out of therapy. And depending on your stated goals, the questions that they ask may vary, but considering you are
there for gender therapy, they’ll probably be something like this. What’s your relationship
like with your family? Your friends? How do you feel about your body? How do you feel about the way other people perceive your body? What do you feel like
when you go out in public? Have you ever gone out in
public presenting as the gender you identify as? Where do you see yourself in the future? What was your childhood like? They’re gonna basically
ask for your life story, and every version of how
you relate to your gender that you could possible imagine, and how all of that makes you feel. And each session, they’re gonna keep checking
in on those things. They’ll check in on how you’re
feeling about your gender, and just how you’re feeling that day, how your day went, how
your week’s been going. Some of them might have a
more structured timeline on exactly how many
visits you have to go to before you can get the letter, and others might just take
it session by session, and kinda let you guide them on how you’re feeling about things. That will especially happen
if you’re not really sure how you want to proceed. And from there, it’s
basically in your hands. Like I said, for people
outside of the US, or minors, or just getting those
state-specific regulations, I got some resources to check
out in the description box. And I just wanna say that
if you are watching this, about to start gender
therapy, thinking of it, taking those first
steps, I’m proud of you. I know how hard it is, taking these first steps is so hard. Every step of the way you
are likely to feel anxious, intimidated, like you wanna give up, you’re probably gonna have
aftershocks of dysphoria, even after positive
accomplishments in this process, but at least you’ll be moving uphill. It is an arduous climb,
but you’re climbing. And the summit is probably
not as far off as it seems. So once again, I hope that was helpful, and thank you again to betterhelp
for sponsoring this video. Don’t forget to click that link below to join betterhelp and
find an online therapist. And if you like this video,
be sure to subscribe for more every week, you can also
follow me at JACKISNOTABIRD on Twitter and Instagram. And don’t forget to check out
my trans interview podcast, Transmission, it’s available everywhere that you get podcasts. And that’s about it for today. Thank you so much for watching,
I’ll see you next time.

100 thoughts on “How To Get a Gender Therapist”

  1. Have you tried BetterHelp before? Got any questions about? Let me know your thoughts and don't forget to use my link to find out more and sign up! https://www.influencerlink.org/SHv

  2. So… I kinda know another trans-person, but he's a little older than me and we don't really talk. Tbh, I'm too scared to ask him about therapy, even though he's the only person I know, that could give me some good advice. :/
    But thanks for the video, it really answered aa few questions.

  3. This video was the small push I needed today to actually look into what I need to legally change my name in my state. I just made an appointment to get my fingerprints taken next week!

  4. Man I could've needed this a couple months ago. It would have made this whole thing a little easier. By now I already had my first therapy session with my therapist I knew nothing about. The problem is that where I live, even tho it's really progressive about lgbt+ stuff, aren't a lot of therapists that even do that kind of thing. It's also hard to find any information since switzerland literally doesnt exist lmao
    Luckily I got a very nice therapist that seems to know what she's talking about and actually just wants to work with me through my feelings to make ME completely sure of what I want and how I feel, and will then give me the diagnosis.
    As scary as the first session was I am a lot more afraid of coming out at school/generally in public than anything else.

  5. perfect timing as i was trying to get the courage today to make my first appointment .. thank you for this and i am calling very soon

  6. I've had my first appointment a few weeks ago and a video like yours would've really helped me. I hope it can help others now tho!! My adcice is to think about what you want to say or answers to common questions before you go because if you are in a therapy situation it's likely that you have no idea what to say. My therapist also asked me about how I feel about puberty and the monthly thing so be prepared for uncomfortable questions as well. Side note if you live in Austria you can just search the internet for therapists in your area. I just called one that seemed likeable (well my mom did lol) and at the appointment my therapist told us how to go about the insurance stuff. Here you also need a referral from your GP but my mom just went and let her sign a letter from the therapist that I needed therapy so that's not a problem at all. Then you just have to send the bill to your insurance and they'll pay a certain percentage.

  7. I am really, really glad that DC has informed consent.
    I have a therapist and she's great, but it's downright transphobic gatekeeping to require anything like that.

  8. I started seeing a gender therapist who is the best therapist I’ve ever talked to, and I’ve been to a lot of therapists (anywhere from 6-10 I lost track)

  9. I live in a small town in Nebraska. I can’t find any gender therapists. Even worse, I’m the only trans person out of 10 different towns.

  10. Very helpful. I had a therapist that made me feel very uncomfortable. Got my letter and got out. Kind of turned me off to therapy all together. Really should be going back sometime soon.

  11. This is the most helpful trans video I have ever seen and you have no idea how much it was perfect timing. I recently came out as trans and this is helpful to see.

  12. I’ve heard about betterhelp before and I might try it out when I’m not broke but I’m also worried about going back to therapy because my first three times weren’t successful and were horrible experiences and I just don’t want that to happen…..Thanks for the tips thou

  13. Im planning to starting to tranistion/ trying to and im not exactly out to my parents, since im a minor i will need to ask my parents to get gender therapy, how should i talk about it to them?

  14. This is an extremely important and valuable video for so many people! Thank you for taking the time to create it!
    in my own search I stumbled upon this: https://metanoia.org/choose/gethelp12.htm which outlines some red flags to watch out for, and how to set up an initial appointment!

  15. I wish I could go to a gender therapist 🙁
    I'm 15 and my parents are transphobic and emotionally abusive so I can't transition at all until I move out. I bought a binder and they cut it up. I get grounded everytime they read my texts and see me not being referred to as my birthname and honestly they scare me. it sucks because all my other lgbt+ friends parents are really accepting and helpful and everyone I know that's trans is starting hormones this year and I can't.

    dysphoric rant from a sad trans boy

  16. This was insanely helpful I just got started looking for a primary care doctor and a gender therapist and could not find anyone through any of the websites that were credible that I found and this video helped me find multiple doctors and therapist that work with transgender individuals that I could look into seeing. Thank you so so much seriously this helped me so much.

  17. My parents are basically shoving me into therapy due to my anxiety and depression problems, but I don't know how to tell them that I want to see a gender therapist (also I am under 18 so I need my parents consent where I live).

  18. the second he said " Im proud of you" i started crying. no one has ever been proud of me before.

  19. What do you guys think of the words therap and diagnosis? I get that they're kinda suitable words, but don’t they imply that being trans is a mental illness – and what else could we, maybe, use?

  20. I think they need to go to a different kind of therapist, the kind at conversion camps

  21. I just need a normal person therapist who isn't homophobic, that's it. That's all I ask. Oh, a cheap one too. No insurance here. I also live in Kentucky. Everyone is homophobic (almost)

  22. I know this doesn't fully pertain to this video. But I'm hoping to find some advice on how to communicate and talk to a family member(s) who say they can accept me being transgender because of their religion. I'm trying to find a better way to approach them so I dont cause any problems. Any advice??

  23. I "found out" im trans in the summer of 2017 and this month (june 2018) I came out to my parents but I can't help but feeling that is was too soon to come out…in your opinion was it too soon? I know it wont change anything right now but idk.. maybe I should have waited a little longer

  24. How can you afford an apartment in NYC? Can you do a video on that? I would like to move there for educational reasons, but I'm scared of the housing costs.

  25. ive been asking my parents to help get me therapy for anxiety for years, and they said it was fine, and that theyd get me signed up, but they never tried to even research it, so now that im finally trying to do it on my own theyre worried that its because i want to transition…. which shouldnt be an issue, but my mom's made about a dozen excuses about how she doesnt have an issue with me, just… everything around me, and who i want to be

  26. I’ve tried BetterHelp but before I could talk to them they said due to answers I should see someone face-to-face
    But I dunno what I did wrong ._.

  27. I have actually heard of better help before along with my friend a while ago and we really needed a therapist in a low point in our lives but they sadly couldn't help us and told us that and referred to go to person therapy

  28. i'm extremely lucky. i have a trans friend with accepting therapists, one suggested gender therapy so there must be one around here, i'm in the biggest state in the city, i go to the biggest highschool here with a GSA, an an accepting mom. thanks you this, now i know how to use those sources and this advice

  29. Anyone else anxious to get a gender therapist? It may just be me and my thoughts here, but I'm afraid of being called a liar, to to be told I'm making it up without realizing it. Guess that could be blamed on my mom's words- but lets not delve into that here.
    Therapy sounds like a great idea and something I want to do. But it's also terrifying for me. I want hormones so badly, but my biggest fear, even above being told I'm a liar, is being told I don't have what the therapist would consider dysphoria and refuse to help me get hormones.

  30. I want to note that my university, in Texas, had professional therapists for free you could go to to get a letter of recommendation. It was a great experience, she didn't care that I was a lesbian, she was super affirming and wrote me an amazing letter. Plus the school keeps the letter in their records so if you lose the letter you can go to your old campus, go to the therapy office and recommend to get it. This won't be at every college but I didn't know about mine until I was a senior and I wish I knew sooner.

  31. Isn't the point of going to therapy not to get a letter so you can transition, but get help sorting yourself out? I don't think you should hide details about yourself just because you think it will influence your desired outcome.

  32. Been waiting since march for my ref letter cos i want top surgery and in scotland you need to talk to a specialist before you can be considered for top surgery on the nhs

  33. I’ve gone to 2 therapist so far both in my country saudi arabia but then i gave up about getting any help in here bc literally my country’s islamic system is against us im just gonna wait till i hit 18 n immigrate or maybe die or kms before that

  34. I’m trying to find gender therapists through the NHS and it’s a complete struggle finding ones that deal with my age group and is accessible in my area

  35. The most important thing to do when you are seeking any kind of therapy is to make sure the person has worked with your issues. You have a RIGHT to ask for references. You have the RIGHT to ask questions about their personal feelings and views on your issues.

  36. I just want to say you've been a big help, and hopefully we could meet and be friends, thank you, and as always love and light! ❤ @Jackson Bird

  37. Something tells me that in a 3rd world country your gender identity would hardly be an issue.

    Being confused as what gender you are; first world, largely socially engineered problem.

  38. Does anybody here know how the process is in Germany? I'm trying to find a gender therapsit right now, but there are no resources, especially in Thüringen, and even my doctor who gave a a referal said she had no clue and I should just go to a normal therapsit maybe. I know I need this though, and I dont want a therapist who doesn't understand gender! Help! 🙁

  39. I'm so emotional and physical unstable about things and I know I want to start T and starts feeling better but I'm poor and my own family still not supporting me
    I be trying not to push them because I know it hard to understand
    But it's getting to the point when I have terrible thought of killing myself
    I'm trying so hard
    But I just keep thinking and crying
    And every day it's been two years since I came out to my mom
    And we being fighting over things for so long
    I don't know what I can do
    My sister pregnant and they keep saying I'm gonna be a aunt
    But I'm not
    My feeling keep getting worst and worst
    Please help me

  40. Thanks for the episode. Was just thinking about this. Also… Couldn't help but look at your book case. All Hail the Glow Cloud! Also… Not sure how to open up to my parents. Finally asked my dad to stop calling me by my given name, and start using my chosen name.

  41. I'll see how things work out, but after around six to seven years of questioning I've finally come out as a trans boy earlier this year, with the help of my best friend (who's also trans). I've come out to everyone in school that I interact with on a regular basis, aka teachers and some classmates. But I haven't yet come out to family. This next week is my birthday and that's when I'm going to send my mom a document I've prepared with resources and a letter from myself on the topic of coming out and being trans, and if it goes well I'm really hoping to be able to start going through the process of getting a letter to start hormones.
    This is a long comment for no other reason than it's one am and I'm vaguely emotional, but all that is to really say that I'm really really REALLY thankful for this video and all of your videos helping with an incredible range of topics on being a trans male. I don't know many yet but so far you're the best trans youtuber i've found that's been a huge help for me in this last year of turbulence.

    So yeahyeah, from a one am rant, thank you a helluva lot for all your help and encouragement. That last bit at the end there, especially the line about the peak of the mountain and all that, that really got me. Blame it on the time or my personal struggles, but it got to me and I said thank you out loud so…yeah. You're great man

  42. i’m 14 and i have been getting mtf feelings for a year or two now and i need help considering if i’m too young to head out and begin now?

  43. Im having my first appointment in 3 days, and I'm a nervous wreck. As a child I was feminine and did a lot of feminine things (though I always despised dresses and skirts), but since i was 10 I've only been wearing clothes from the boys department and i've become more masculine. Does that mean that i'm not trans, or that what i'm feeling is a phase?

  44. I'm a 13 year old trans boy and I really want to start taking puberty blockers and go to a gender therapist, but I am afraid to tell my parents that. I did came out as a trans boy, but my mom still calls me a girl. I am really afraid to tell them that I want to take hormones and that they will hurt me (mentally/physically)
    Help?

  45. How do I get diagnosed with gender dysphoria? All I can find online are gender therapists who I don't think diagnose u?

  46. This video pushed me to research options in my country and I'm honestly so glad
    Unfortunately there aren't any places specifically for gender dysphoria close to where I live but there are some near where I'm going to be studying in a year and a half
    Guess I'll have to wait a little while
    For now I'm probably going to tell my own therapist about it, hopefully she knows more about my options

  47. My parents couldn’t find a gender therapist so I’m waiting on a regular therapist that might be able to help

  48. My 7 year old son thinks he is transgender but I don't know if he should start seeing a therapist a psychologist or what kind of doctor to guide my husband and I on what to do about my son wanting to wear everything girls wear. My husband doesn't think we should let him wear dresses until a doctor tells us what to do. He also thinks the school won't let him wear dresses and the bathroom situation would be stressful for my child. Plus the bullying. I'm really worried and don't know if we should wait until my child is older. He said he wanted to start wearing dresses this comming summer but my husband wants to have a professional evaluation before we make any change since he is still 7 years old. Please help.

  49. Does it have to specifically be a gender therapist? I already go to a therapist and we talk about gender dysphoria a lot. She is not a gender therapist but she is willing to diagnose me with gender dysphoria. Is that something she can do?

  50. I see so many brave kids here (and while yes, they are kids, they are behaving more adult about trans issues than a GREAT MANY legal adults I know) and I wish I had known that trans was even a thing when I was a teen. Not that I could have done anything about it in a highly evangelical setting. Cutting my hair short was an act of blasphemy. I'm in my mid 30s and have an established family and career, so I'm not likely to ever transition, but I am hoping for top surgery to fix my dysphoria. I have a really great life and the only part that's wrong is my breasts, so I see no reason to throw everything else out of balance when that can be fixed without a complete transition. My wife has encouraged me to seek counseling and I'm wondering why, when I know exactly what I need to be comfortable in my body. I've spent enough time with it by now that yes, I'm certain. If I have to get a letter, or if insurance requires therapy to turn the procedure from "elective" to "medically necessary" then I'll have to revisit the topic. Thanks for putting together this video. It has helped me feel just a smidge less negative toward the idea of therapy.

  51. I went to a therapist for the first time the other week. I really wanted to because I was feeling so dysphoric and sad and confused about everything and I wanted help. I don’t know if it was the therapist or just the type of person I am but I hated it. It made me feel really vulnerable and even more confused. Afterwards I came home and cried and I don’t cry, but honestly I’m too scared to try again.

  52. I just booked my first appointment EVER. It’s in 4 days! I’m so nervous but it’s been a long time coming. I have to at least do this one thing just to see if it will help.

  53. I wish there was a way to talk to a gender therapist for free over the internet. In a like offline chat not on Messenger. Anonymously most importantly. Like seriously.

  54. I got a paper from the doctor giving my family information about kind of a trans center with therapist, my mother brushed it off and did nothing. I can’t trust her anymore sadly

  55. I finally found a therapist to write me a letter for top surgery I’m non binary plus finding a therapist is like shopping it’s hard to find someone you can connect with

  56. I can't find out my gender. 100% NOT cis female. NO FEMALE!! But I can't find out if it's nb or trans. So like AhhhhhhHhh

  57. ok soooo,i live in a country where lgbt is criminalized im trying to move to canada .IF i move there i want to go to a normal threapist and make sure their accepting.i want to tell them about me being transgender and dysphoria and such,can she or he (the therapist) come out for me like "hello your child is diagnosed with being transgender it means blah blah blah'' ???? someone please reply i am so desperate for answers

  58. "I'm proud of you" first time someone said that and actually meant it.. It makes me have hope, and bravery to do this!!:)

  59. I'm 21 and on a waiting list for a diagnoses. I'm in Holland and I was homophobic and transphobic because The Media gave me a false idea of what we are. So to Me Trans people were like these circus women with facial hair! I never even knew about Enby people. I'm scared RN but I really hope I'll get there. Even tho my parents also have a bad view on Trans people. I hope you all will achieve HRT too. Good luck!

  60. My parents think it's all a phase. I'm just following the trends.
    I'm not following the trends when I almost cry buying a swimsuit, Mom. I'm not following the trends when I would rather have heat stroke than look like I have a large chest, Mom. I wouldn't willingly put myself through this much emotional turmoil for "the trends", Dad. I don't choose to wear men's clothes for fun or to be trendy, Dad, it's so I don't break into tears on the way there.

  61. Literally no one near me, its like they dont exist at all or they wont cover my insurance OR THEY HAVE NO FUCKING IDEA how to deal with me.

  62. This is helpful, I came out to my mom and she told me that I am going to go to a therapist bc she wants me to talk it out to them.

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